Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Unusual family dynamics
My Dad, R. Loyle Borton (b. July 4, 1907), the 6th of 9 children (7 of whom lived into adulthood - such a mortality rate was not uncommon in those days), was just weeks shy of 50 when I was born, eldest of 3 children in his second marriage. Thus I have an older half-brother (Jerry) and half-sister (Joanne), both now deceased, who would be 76 and 74 respectively this coming August. I also have several near-contemporary nephews and nieces, the oldest of whom, Jeff, is only 6 weeks younger than I! When Joanne died in August 2007, and I was at her home following the funeral, I was reminded of our enjoyable visits there when we were children, and the home next door of the family of my Dad's younger brother Von (which has since been turned into a home for senior citizens). When Uncle Von died in April 1974, I remember how shocked and stunned Dad was, telling us, "It just doesn't seem real - Von was the youngest of all of us, and the strongest and most vital."
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I often ponder the unusual circumstances of us being almost a "generation of our own" of the Borton cousins of our generation. . . there are the five of us (and yes, I AM the oldest - before you remind me) that were really closer in age to many of the next generation. I never get through April 11th without thinking of the shock of Dad's death. We'd had a few days to begin to digest the possibility, but I still miss him - 35 years later. Lots to contemplate as we get "older", but what a rich and wonderful family history we share!
Mary Jane
Allen (Hi, Jane),
How did I miss seeing you at Joanne's after the service? I saw Jane, Jeff and family, and Jack and his SO but not you.
And yes, thanks for the heads-up to check out your blog. There was a time that I did this daily but lately, I don't know what has happened to me. I think I'm working too hard on the lake house.
And Jane, it's hard to believe your dad died before my parents' death in '76. I remember Lisa was in high school but I was thinking she was a junior, not a freshman.
"...rich and wonderful family history..." is right. This is such a huge gift that so many are not privileged to experience.
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